It’s Christmas, it’s time to have fun; live or with the camera off! And as a gift to yourself, you can use these erogenous zones all year round and really make the most of them.

The world of sexuality is an endless discovery that we love to explore in depth. Since sex education is not done in school (well, not with teachers anyway!), It’s time to demystify the erogenous zones so we know where to find them and how to play with them to have fun. Ready?

 

Erogenous zones: guaranteed orgasm?

If you thought that by tickling one of your erogenous zones you were going to have a powerful orgasm every time, that’s not the case. Get that idea out of your head. Like all good things, you have to earn an orgasm, there’s no miracle formula. That would be nice, huh, but no.

You are disappointed which is understandable, but that’s just how it is. The reason? We’re all unique and the things that excite us vary from person to person, and don’t always work either. It all depends on the mood, the environment, the partner, etc, etc .

So what are these erogenous zones for? How do you find them? How do you stimulate them? We’re here to tell you everything.

 

What is an erogenous zone?

“An erogenous zone is a part of the body which, when stimulated, caressed or kissed, can bring feelings of pleasure and cause sexual arousal, or even an orgasm! ”

Put simply, erogenous zones can be sorted into two categories: primary and secondary.

 

Two types of erogenous zones

The primary erogenous zones are directly linked to reproduction and the genitals, such examples are the penis, vagina and clitoris. When you stimulate the clitoris, you can observe the famous lordosis reflex, which makes you arch back and has the advantage of bringing out the buttocks and vulva. Convenient for penetration! This reflex is found in mammals but as humans, we no longer need it. Nature has kept our clitoris around just to give us a little more pleasure (hence its importance).

Secondary erogenous zones are those that vary from person to person. And that’s where it gets complicated and nothing is guaranteed! You can be aroused by caresses in the back, neck, buttocks, foot-play or even more unusual things.

What is certain, is that there are still things that could make an area erogenous; apparently mucocutaneous tissue is the best! 

For the rest, it’s the sum of our experiences, pleasant and unpleasant, that will make one area more sensitive than another. Education also plays an important role. For example, if you have been told all your youth that such an act or such a place is dirty and disgusting, you will find it difficult to appreciate if someone comes to tickle you.

So, you understand the absurdity of making a list of erogenous zones, since they are all personal. To tell someone how important sexual exploration is, who has no sexual appreciation, even with the primary erogenous zones, will have little effect. It’s all connected to our little brains!

 

Erogenous zones: cognitive stimulation above all

We are talking about a “brain carrot” or a reward system. Ultra schematising is the brain secreting hormones in response to a likable action; there is a chemical motivation to replicate the same experience again!

So if you enjoy a certain stimulation or a feeling you will try to reproduce the effect. Especially if it releases lots of hormones that tickles your brain. This explains how we will determine our most sensitive erogenous zones.  If a baby’s feet were often massaged and it was associated with a pleasurable sensation, this area can become extremely erogenous once grown up. Any area of ​​the body can become extremely erogenous! You see what i mean ?!

In conclusion, we could say that secondary erogenous zones are linked to the sensation of excitement and pleasantness and not reproduction. Meaning you could have as many or as little possible based on your prior experiences. 

 

And when don’t they work?

Here we’ll talk about availability. To put it simply you need to be in the mood. Because even your most sensitive erogenous zone won’t be affected if you are not in the mood for trifles. Pleasure demands attention and presence. Pleasure is optimized if the subject is fully engaged in the moment!

So if you can’t say for sure what’s going to make you have the orgasm of your life, avoid things that will make your mood plummet. Avoid concerns, judgment on oneself (and necessarily on the other), guilt, shame, existential questions, a handicap, …

So to finish this chapter, finding your erogenous zones requires exploration using your hands, sex toys or your partner. If you get to know yourself well enough, you will discover that your whole body can become an erogenous zone. What a gift to have!