Succeeding in a deep throat may seem difficult for some. While it is true that this oral sex technique is a fantasy of many men (and women), it is not always easy to achieve it without gagging.

Here are a few tips sure to help you get through the process and meet the challenge head on. 

 

Did you say, “deep throat”? What is that exactly?

This technique comes from the world of pornography in the 1970s. It has become somewhat more widespread over the years, but it does require a certain amount of know-how. In any case, to put it simply, this fellatio technique consists of swallowing your partner’s penis (or a sex toy) completely. So, the little rascal disappears entirely into your mouth and the glans comes to rest at the back of your throat. That’s where “deep throat” comes from. 

If this still seems obscure to you, think of the sword swallowers. Same technique. In any case, this very particular technique must always be done with the consent of all partners. If some people like how hardcore it is and want to force you, bite it. They won’t try twice. 

 

Practice

Looking at deep throat experts, it may seem simple. Incorrect. It’s best to practice before trying to do it live during your shows. Sex toys are ideal for this if you are afraid of reacting badly with your partner’s penis and hurting it, for example. Or vomiting on him. Even more so if you have trust issues as well for control. In this case, choose the softest one. A stiff dildo can hurt you. 

Yes, this technique requires practice and training. And there are certain barriers you’ll have to overcome to become a deep throat pro. The first thing will be to relax your throat muscles, and to relax yourself. The throat tends to close naturally when the glans touches the glottis. And that’s what makes people gag. Or indeed more. 

The second barrier to overcome is the feeling of suffocation. You will notice that when you’re deep throating, you can no longer breathe. This is also a normal reaction of the body. When an object gets stuck in the pharynx, the epiglottis automatically blocks your breath. The same applies when your partner’s glans descends into your throat. 

 

 

Tips for deep throating successfully

If you want to deep throat successfully, here are some tips to help you. 

 

Open your mouth very wide

Don’t go so far as to unhinge your jaw! That would be a shame. But open your mouth wide and stick out your tongue. This simple action allows you to open your throat wider. Be careful not to overdo it, otherwise it will have the opposite effect. 

 

You’re the one in control

Contrary to what you see sometimes in some videos, it is not the one who is being sucked who is in charge but the other way around! Especially if you don’t want to have bad reflexes. So, take the penis in your mouth and move it down your throat at whatever pace you want. Even if you want to do your best from the start, avoid putting it all in your mouth the first time. Apart from hurting you and making you want to vomit, there is no point. It takes time, practice, and relaxation. 

 

Take your time

As I said, go gradually. At your rhythm. As soon as you feel nausea or a blockage, back off and start again slowly. No pressure. Over time, you’ll go further and further. Your throat will get used to it (so will your brain) and that’s how you’ll get to deep throat. 

 

Have fun

Like many practices in sex, “if it’s not fun, it’s dumb”. Don’t focus solely on this technique. Do a 69, practice, change position, take the penis in your mouth, swallow little by little, take it out, do it again… In short, have fun. Don’t forget that pleasure is the basis of sex! For everyone involved. 

 

Breathe, you’re blowing! 

Yes, even while deep throating, you have to remember to breathe. While you are initially in control of oral sex, with time, practice, and trust, you can hand over the reins to your partner. But for him to fuck your mouth properly, he’ll have to listen. Otherwise, you fire him, and get a sex toy, but it’s less fun. 

The breath-holding is really part of the excitement of deep throat, but it can be overdone! If you need to breathe, don’t hesitate to push your partner away. If he refuses, the threat of teeth is always effective…

 

Swallow to go deeper

The secret to deep throating well is swallowing. But as I said, it doesn’t happen all at once. Once your throat is relaxed (and so are you), and your gag reflexes have gone, try swallowing. This will allow the penis to be pushed in a little further. Your partner will particularly enjoy feeling his glans slide a little further forward. It’s a very good sensation. 

 

Isn’t deep throating trashy?

Yes, and people like that. This slightly difficult action tends to make you salivate but don’t hold back your drool. On the contrary. Your spit will serve as a lubricant for the penis and your throat. It gives it a very exciting trashy, out-of-control feel! So, if you think it’s not sexy, you’re wrong. 

 

Is deep throating an exciting practice for both partners? 

This is a question that is often asked. Is it mainly for him or for both? Who benefits most from this fellatio technique? I’d say the answer to this is personal. Some will do it to their partner to please them. Others will both be excited by it. Or it may excite the person doing it more because there may be a sense of control. 

In any case, if, despite “intensive” training, you still don’t enjoy doing it, then… don’t. As I said above, sex should remain fun for both people.