Working in camming and having a boyfriend (or a girlfriend) can be complicated. For some, it just isn’t possible. So, how do you manage these complex relationships and separate your professional life from your personal life?

Getting your girlfriend or boyfriend to accept your sexcam work is not always easy. Some say they accept it at first, but in the face of everyday life, things can change. However, your partners can be a major help, especially when you’re faced with behaviour that is not always pleasant. 

A shoulder to lean on

When you are lucky enough to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who understands your daily life, this is an undeniable asset for camming work. When we are discouraged, tired, facing insults from viewers or extreme demands, having someone to lean on can play a key role in our well-being. Our other half can also help us to step back and think more calmly. It’s always good to have another point of view when you’re in over your head. It brings us balance and can prevent us from falling into certain traps of cam work while remaining in the shadows. 

Be careful not to overload them or make them uncomfortable

Leaning on your boyfriend or girlfriend is good. But he or she must not become an outlet. Asking too much of them can also put the relationship at risk. In addition, many camgirls say that the presence of their partner in the vicinity of where they broadcast puts additional pressure on them. They are embarrassed to speak loudly, they are embarrassed to moan, to give themselves up to someone else, even if it is only virtual. 

Yes, it can feel like you are being spied on or embarrassed when you know the other person is nearby. And sometimes jealousy can get the better of some people. This complicates both the professional and the personal side. 

Three solutions for avoiding drama

The first and (theoretically) simplest is trust. Trust your boyfriend or girlfriend when it comes to your work. Reassure him/her of the difference between what’s virtual and what’s real. In your camgirl work, no one touches you – they only look at you. You are playing a role, the only real words you say are to your partner. Let him/her watch you, touch themselves to your shows, be accomplices. Your libido as a couple will then explode.

A second solution is to create your own separate world, especially if their presence is a block for you. Create your own room that will be your own world, dedicated only to your work. Put rules in place for your shows so that you are not disturbed. 

The third solution is to do it when they are not at home. But hiding your camming work can be a dangerous game. Especially depending on his character. In any case, many women do it behind their boyfriend or girlfriend’s back. Then, with the prepaid card payment that each site offers, they will never be aware of your earnings.

The inevitable separation

Unfortunately, in some cases, there are no solutions other than ending things when it becomes too complicated to manage. And often, it ends badly. Very badly. Since if it’s you who is bringing in the most income, that might bother some people’s egos and they would do anything to disrupt that. Some examples already seen include: 

• Reporting the work to social services, to try to regain custody of the children. (Camgirls are the devil… It’s not right for a mother to do this job.)
• Creating customer accounts to harass his ex. One camgirl even had to leave her chosen site because each time she logged on, the coward came and wrote her name, address, and phone number in her chatroom…
• Theft of credit cards or misuse of money earned by you.
• Breaking into a hostess’ account to monitor messages or to retrieve financial data that could be used as evidence against you, for example to reduce your child support payments…
• Distributing screenshots or photos of their ex in full activity to their family… Just to destroy you and your family…

In short, for some, the more disgusting the better. But rest assured, this is not the case for everyone, fortunately. However, it is best to be prepared for the worst, just in case. Protect yourself. Change the password of your camgirl account, change your pictures, use pictures without your face… Block access to your bank accounts. And if it goes too far, don’t hesitate to file a complaint.